Keep Experimenting Until Something Works
Wow! I haven’t written in this blog for a while. Been wrapped up with other stuff. . .good stuff. Making headway.
That old saw attributed to Einstein (I don’t think he said it though), about insanity and doing the same thing etc.? Well, the converse of that is to never stop trying something else until you find something that works.
That’s a lot harder than you think!
Let me use as an example what I changed the other day that I hadn’t even thought to try and didn’t even intend to change but wish I had so I could claim genius and insight!
I went to be early and then got up early.
Wow! Talk about a shift in perspective! A change in scenery! A reordering of the world!
Of course, I have never in my life ever wanted to go to bed early. I thought I always (boy, talk about a blindspot! Is this an example of the unsanity of identification a la Korzybski? Sorry. Back to the point!) preferred working late at night when it was quiet and peaceful and distractions were at a minimum. At least that’s how it was when I was in my twenties, single and in the Air Force (like nothing’s changed since then, right!)
You see, I work during the day and the only time I have for my avocations, my true interests, is after work. At night. Or so I thought (since I already knew I worked best at night.)
But first I have to spend time with my wife. Have dinner. Talk. Then, at the ass-end of the day, that’s when I was supposed to devote myself to my real interests and passions.
Yeah. Right.
By 8 p.m. all I felt like doing was watching t.v. for the rest of the night. Four hours — shot!
What a waste of time! Why didn’t I just turn off the t.v. and get to work? How could I be so lazy. So unmotivated. I would never accomplish anything I wanted if I didn’t get off my ass and get to work! Didn’t I care about this stuff? Didn’t I believe in its value? Then why can’t you make yourself care when it really counts? What is the source of your defective character? What inner demon is holding you back from doing what you know needs to be done? Where’s your motivation? Get a grip! Get to work!
(By the way, let me introduce you to my Inner Critic. My inner moralist. My inner inquisitor. You probably have one too. Your own Inner Bastard. The inner bully who beats you up whenever you don’t do what you yourself think you should be doing.
That’s why he’s so hard to ignore. He knows you and what you believe is best for you. And he seems to want you to achieve it, so you listen to him.
Liar!
Him, not you.
But more on him another time. In fact, he deserves his own blog. Well, not his own exclusively. But definitely as a major character. See ” leadyourself.wordpress.com. Not quite the appropriate name, but he only started pushing himself forward after I’d created the blog. Besides, he’s important, but not the whole point of the blog.)
The fact is, I was getting so bored with television (having a DVR will do that, you know. All your favorite programs, at least all the ones that have been on lately, and you no longer have to watch them now!)
Oh, I could read. I had lots of books to read. But I couldn’t pull myself away from the tube and my lounger wasn’t conducive to holding books up to read. . .and so on.
Finally, the other night I just stopped fighting it and went to bed around 9:00. Eventually I fell asleep, around 10 or so.
I woke up about 3:30. I got up.
The house, of course, was quiet.
I made a cup of instant coffee and went and sat in my reading corner. My new wife had helped me reorganize my living room so I would have my own space for reading. We’d bought a used wingback chair with a retractable footstool in terrific shape for just $40 and a floor lamp with an adjustable reading lamp. I piled about a dozen books I’d checked out from the library next to me, put on a new DVD I’d bought online of an album I hadn’t heard in 31 years and sat back to read.
Do you know what Joy is? What peace is? I do.
Do you know what it’s like to feel content? I do.
I looked at the clock and said to myself, “I have three-and-a-half hours before I have to go to work. I have time to do anything I want. Wow!”
I read. thought. got out my notebook and wrote down some thoughts. I looked at the clock agai. “I’ve still got more than two hours before I have to go to work.”
I read some more. made more notes. I got up, went to the computer and wrote a post for another of my blogs.
It was great. Invigorating. Focusing.
I’ve continued to go to bed early and get up early for the rest of this week and in that time I have actually started making progress getting things important to me done.
I feel less like a failure. In fact, I now have much stronger confidence I will accomplish the dreams and plans I have. deep sigh.
Well, that’s enough navel-button gazing for now.
I hope something I’ve said here, some stray word or phrase, some twist of thought has sparked something in you that needed sparking. changing. twisting.
That’s the whole point, after all. Of blogging. For me.
God’s best.
Tom K.
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